Can you point us to the site that says there is a 1GB limit / slot, please. The info might be dated. Could also be the wrong input. 
Corsair says, for K9N Neo-F V3 "4 DIMMs w/ DDR2 800+ up to 8GB ".
The MSI K9AG Neo-F has the limits you describe.
My motherboard is the MS-7260, K9N Neo-F
Version 1, if that makes a difference. Could have different hardware components.
The site I found that info for was:
http://www.crucial.com/store/listparts.aspx?model=MS-7260+(K9N+Neo)
From the webpage: "Each memory slot can hold DDR2 PC2-8500,DDR2 PC2-6400,DDR2 PC2-5300 with a maximum of 1GB per slot.*
*Not to exceed manufacturer supported memory."
Now, my motherboard manual shows that PC2-6400 is the fastest ram supported, and the Crucial site shows 8500.
I had read that the memory controller on my CPU should be able to handle 4x1GB @ 800MHz, is this true?
Thanks again for all the help it is greatly appreciated!