I'm on win10 so i can't use the Intel program that optimizes this chip
Are you subscribed to the extended support for Win10? Otherwise it's becoming a bit risky by now. Each month they are finding new security holes, but they are only patching them on Win11 now. Win10 doesn't get any fixes since last October anymore, unless you're on Extended Support. And even that will end this October for sure.
It's no problem to make Win11 look and feel like Win10, if you're worried about that. You can also disable any telemetry, AI features and whatnot. So the only reason would be some software that runs under Win10, but not under Win11, which would be quite rare indeed.
Update: Due to my cpu crashing and i had to reseat my ram, XMP works now. As for how long idk.
I agree with fatedust, more RAM stability testing is in order. You cannot just wait on crashes. When a game crashes, the instability is quite severe already. But there might be a slight instability going on unnoticed, which could ruin your installation over time, since it may silently corrupt files. Everything the PC does has to go through the RAM first. So every write to the SSD, it has seen the RAM before, and you want to make sure it's stable.
So I also recommend checking the RAM stability properly with TestMem5, see my
RAM guide under 5), I explain there how to do this.